I'm 22! I'm actually posting this on my birthday. I've seen a lot of people do this kind of post around their birthday so I thought I'd try it too. It was actually quite hard to think of 22 things but I got there in the end. So here we go.

22 Things I've Learned in 22 Years

1. It's better to have a few good friends than 100 bad ones

Honestly, having fake or bad friends can be so damaging to your mental health. It's great to have lots of great friends but what's the point having lots of fake friends? If you have a few good friends, you will really appreciate them more.

2. You have to be your own cheerleader

Don't wait for people to support you and gas you up for your achievements, you should celebrate yourself!

girl at Highcliffe castle dorset

3. I should stop calling myself dumb

I always say I'm dumb as a joke and that often provokes people to join in and say it to, when in reality I'm really not - I've nearly finished a degree.

4. Confidence is key but fake it 'til you make it

I've recently learned that confidence really is key. When you think of the most confident people, you wouldn't really try messing with them or putting them down. Although, it's hard to be confident, the more you try and act confident, the more it will come across to others that you are.

5. It isn't an edgy personality trait to like Lana Del Rey

My favourite artist is Lana Del Rey, don't know if you've heard of her? Haha 14 year old me thought I was so cool and different but really, you like what you like and it doesn't matter. It's not cool to try and be different.

6. I can't keep everything bottled up

I am someone who finds it really difficult to talk about trauma or how I'm feeling, I'll often make jokes out of things as a coping mechanism. Keeping it bottled up is the wrong way to deal with it because I'll often get overlooked. How will people know to be there for you if you don't let them know? I've found it's much more healthy to be open about how I feel.

7. Everyone is working at their own pace

The worst thing you can do is compare yourself to others when it comes to your life goals. Especially in your 20s when some people are married with kids, and some people are just starting to figure out what they want to do. It's all FINE there's no rush on anything.

8. You shouldn't sacrifice your feelings just to get on with people

I hate confrontation so a lot of the time when people have peed me off I haven't said anything, but if someone wrongs you, they aren't going to realise unless you tell them.

9. Age doesn't mean anything

Again, everyone is working at their own pace it doesn't really matter about your age. I am also saying this because I am a 22 year old with some greys coming through.

10. You don't owe anything to anyone

In the past I felt like I had to do things for people and felt bad for saying no to things, but now I'll pretty much only go out of my way for people who deserve it.

11. Like what you like

This relates to my Lana Del Rey point earlier. Unfortunately there are people that will make fun of you for what you like so you may as well openly enjoy whatever it is you enjoy, unapologetically.

girl on the beach at sunset

12. Celebrate the small wins

I feel like no one gives themselves enough credit and this is why I'm going to celebrate small wins from now on. There are so many things in life worth celebrating so we may as well make the most out of them.

13. You don't have to have a life plan

Did anyone else's school make them feel like they were supposed to know what career they wanted to do when they were 16? I still have no idea haha my whole life is a long time to plan for and I don't want to be stuck doing something I don't actually like so it's better to have options than decide on one thing in my opinion.

14. Putting yourself first isn't selfish

Honestly, at the end of the day people will come and go but you will always have yourself, so you need to put yourself first sometimes.

15. Appreciate little things

I feel like I don't always fully appreciate good times until they are a memory and the more things that turn into memories, the more I realise I need to appreciate those things while they happen and not just after.

16. If you can't love yourself, how in the hell can you love somebody else?

So true, thank you RuPaul.

17. Saying no to people is fine 

Again, it's not selfish to set boundaries and to not do everything for people.

18. You won't always have awful taste in men

I used to always go for toxic males and now I have the nicest boyfriend ever and am winning at life, I just wish I didn't waste so much time.

19. There is a lot in the world that needs to change

As you get older, you realise that there are so many things that are wrong in the world and things you thought you knew seem to be untrue and that we need to make take active steps into spreading kindness and trying to make the world a better place.

20. You will probably feel 18 forever

Ever since turning 18, every year I feel like I haven't got any older and I think I will keep thinking I'm 18, at least for the near future anyway. I wonder if when I am 30, will I still feel like I'm 18?

21. Don't grow up too fast

When I was a teenager, all I wanted to do was be older but now, I am going to be an adult for the rest of my life. You are only young for a short amount of time so you may as well make the most out of it.

22. It will be harder to think of things for this post than what you thought

I struggled with finding 22 life lessons I've learnt, but I hope you enjoyed reading my list.

What's one thing you've learnt?


  1. I can solely relate to 'you won't always have bad taste in men' I was 24 when my taste improved - kisses a whole lot of frogs before then. I love alot of this because it's true, you really do have to be your own cheerleader x

  2. Happy Birthday!! I loved this post - I always think posts like this are so much fun! I am also a big fan of loving things unapologetically I can't even count the number of weird things I've publicly been obsessed with!

  3. Happy birthday! I love reading these types of post, I think they're so important as in my teens I thought you had to have it figured out by your 20s but you don't at all! Have a lovely day X

  4. Love this and I wholeheartedly agree with so many of these points! Being your own cheerleader and having less friends but better friends is so important and something that I learned the really hard way! Great post my love and happy birthday! x

  5. Great learnings you have here! :) Happy birthday!

  6. So many great lessons here! The one about feeling 18 forever is so true - I'm nearly 25 and don't feel it. Hope you had a fab birthday x

  7. Happy Birthday Lauren! These are all great lessons to have learnt over the last 22 years. I completely agree with no.11 'Like what you like'. I think learning to embrace what you like, no matter how supposedly weird it may be, is something that definitely comes with age :) x


  8. Happy birthday Lauren! This post was a great read - while I am about to turn 31 (in a month!) I see most of these and god, how they resonate with me! Between very few friends all along and liking what I like, I hope I can create the life I want!

    Hope you're having a great day x

  9. Happy Birthday Lauren! I loved reading this post and all the things you have learnt! x

    Lucy | www.lucymary.co.uk

  10. Happy belated birthday! Completely agree with all of these, especially to celebrate the small wins! It's so easy to forget to cheer ourselves on, sometimes we become our biggest critic!

  11. Happy birthday!
    I think I'd struggle if I did this post as well haha. I agree with all of them. One thing I'd add is "you will never know everything, and it's alright" because we grow up assuming that adults know everything and feel disappointed when there is so much that we don't know.

  12. Happy belated birthday Lauren! I agree with all these points, I learned only late;y that you have to be your own cheerleader and you don't owe anything to anyone! thank you for sharing and hope you had an amazing day x

  13. Love this kind of post! I think that as you get older you realise that it's better to have a few friends you love and speak to regularly, other than a big group of people that are fake or not good for you x

  14. So much wisdom for one so young. I am 60 and it has take. Me this long to learn these lessons. Great post!

  15. Thanks for sharing, it seems you have learned lots about yourself :)

    Nic | Nic's Adventures & Bakes

  16. Happy Birthday!!! These are some really solid life lessons, I honestly believe that each year brings its own lessons so I love posts like this.

    Here's to another year of valuable lesson learning x

  17. OMG I've never related more to point 20! I always feel like a teenager still! Even though I've moved out!

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com