FRIENDSHIPS: THE LOW DOWN

Tuesday

This week, I just wanted to talk about friendships because I have seen a lot of people posting about friendships. As the lockdown restrictions ease in the UK and other countries, we are able to see our friends more.

Group of girls on Amsterdam canal boat

Advice on friendships

Lately, I have seen a few people on Twitter saying that they don't have friends which saddens me. I don't know these people, so I'm not sure that's actually the case, but sometimes you can feel like you have no friends, or that you have no one in your corner.

My advice for these people would be to value the people that you actually have in your life, whether that be family or colleagues that you like. I would also say it is never too late to try and make friends! It is a common misconception that you can't make friends as an adult, as it isn't as easy as when you're in school, but this is not the case! If anything, making friends later on is actually easier.

Since I have started blogging regularly, I have interacted with other bloggers online who have similar interests to me. Making online friends is also a good way to connect with people if you are shy in person. Of course, you do need to be careful when making online friends - we have all seen the TV show Catfish.

I also think it is important to remember that you different things out of friendships with different people. For example, you may have a friend that you have a good time with but you can't trust them. If you have friends like this, it's important to know where you stand. If you know they aren't the most trustworthy, then you shouldn't expect them to be trustworthy. There are also the friends that you have a good time with, and you could trust them with your life. I tend to find myself gravitating towards these people and wanting to spend less time with the people who are only fun for a short time.

Group of friends in Leicester Square

Friends getting ready for night out

My friendships

As I get older, I tend to be pickier with who I call my friend. Just because I really believe that no company is better than bad company. I have individual friends who I will meet up with as well as groups of friends and the majority of my friends now are from university. I do still have some amazing friends from home but as I left school and college, I seemed to leave friendships behind there. The same thing could happen after uni too, but I do think most of them will become my friends for life.

One of the main qualities I look for in friendships is when they are happy for my successes and when they build me up. I am always reading posts about how women should empower women and this is definitely true! I'm always looking out for those who do that for me. 

I am really grateful for the friendships I have at the moment. For the friends I see often and the friends who I don't see as much.

What sort of friendships do you have? Mainly close individual friends or do you have a friendship group? Let me know in the comments.

Friends in Dublin

Two friends at a party

Wool of the King

18 comments

  1. I love this post on friends. I think lockdown has made ur realize their importance even more! Do you think so too?
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    COT | https://changeoftomorrow.com/

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  2. Very wise advice and absolutely spot on. Many friendships are very different. I have friends that I don’t see for ages but we are always friends. Twitter and blogger friends that I interact with regularly but have never met (but I hope to at some point). Thanks for sharing,

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  3. I'll hold my hands up and say I'm definitely one of those people that doesn't have many friends!

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  4. Love this post! I've definitely lost a lot of friends since going to uni but we'd drifted apart in sixth form anyway so it wasn't a big deal. I still have friends from home who I love and a few new people at uni too. I've loved how with my blog I've started to talk to more people online too as it's so nice to support and talk to new people!

    Tash - www.agirlwithview.co.uk

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  5. Sometimes, we find friends in the most unexpected places. I found great friends from workplaces. There are even apps to connect with people too :)

    Nancy ✨ exquisitely.me

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  6. What a great post. I totally agree that no company is better than bad company. I have always believed that.

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  7. Friends who build you up are so important! I'm really lucky, I realised in starting my blog all my close friends were super supportive with anything I do and are like my real life cheerleaders 😂

    Nicola | nicoladaletraining.com

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  8. I haven't met any friends in nearly 5 months now, not in real life anyway, and I've used this time to reconnect with some friends with whom I'd lost touch. We've done hourssss long Zoom conversations and it's all been so precious to me.

    I'm not someone who has a LOT of friends, but I have deep bonds with a few people. And I've been going through some trying times. These close friends have truly been rocks for me.

    You make a very interesting point about knowing that not all friendships will be alike, and that you can have different friends for different things. This awareness can be truly useful so that we don't set ourselves up for disappointment.

    Cheers to friends of all sorts! :) :)

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  9. Lovely post and photos. Making friends as an adult is really hard. When my anxiety started almost a decade a go, I basically lost all my friends and only within the last few years have I been able to make any others. I'm super picky too. I think when you've had bad experiences with friendships, you have to be!

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  10. Thanks for sharing, I don't have that many close friends which is a shame, as I find it hard to make friends due to my learning disability, but the ones that I have are lovely and really supportive

    Nic | Nic's Adventures & Bakes

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  11. Brilliant post. friendships are so rewarding but can often be hard work. They do change as you get older as well.

    I have 3 best friends, who mainly do not get on with each other!! One is a life long school bestie, the other a work bestie that I am still very close with despite no longer working with her and my Mummy bestie, our babies were born within months of each other and have grown up beside each other as have the mum's too.

    I am a bit of a friend hoarder though, I have so many that I often don't give them all they deserve x

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  12. Great post! I think it's good to have friends for different things. I have one best friend who I know I can trust with anything but then I have friends that I like to go out for drinks with, friends to go to art galleries/concerts with etc who I wouldn't necessarily trust with certain things. As long as you know where you stand with each of your friends, and know what to expect from them, then you can build some really great friendships! x

    https://www.femaleoriginal.com

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  13. Friendships are definitely something to cherish - especially during times of lockdown. Thanks for sharing!

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  14. As Ive got older I definitely think that the quality of my friendships is more important than the number of friends I do have. Great tips to appreciate that are already around you like colleagues, over the last 2 years my closest friends have become the people I worked with for a short time. x

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  15. Friendship have different Shades and every shades with lots of positivity and strength. People make friends for their own sake or tend to take friends for granted. The value of friendship is plummeting. just takes is 10 seconds to drop a text or 15 seconds to make a call, make sure you’re always reaching out. Read this https://justpurenothingelse.blogspot.com/2020/08/shades-of-friendship.html

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  16. This really resonated with me! I definitely have some "only good for a good time" friends, but I also find myself slowly separating away from that and going for more meaningful friendships. I think a large part of that is realising that building true friends for life generally means liking the whole package and not just part of it xx

    mia // https://beautiful-inspiring-creative-life.com/

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  17. I've seen this in my own life. After school, you start to lose contact with a few so-called friends. Then you realise that the only reason you were friends was that you saw each other every day. Nowadays I also find it difficult to make new friends, but when I do meet someone cool, I make an effort to get to know them and have a friendship.

    Sending good vibes all the way from South Africa. Michelle (michellesclutterbox.com)

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  18. No company is better than bad company - you're absolutely right. I've had bad experiences with friendships and as I get older, I've accepted than having individual friends may also be a good thing :)

    Shuana
    howivebeen.com

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